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Welcome to the relationship revolution
If you’re reading this on Tuesday, January 26, 2021, then THIS is the day. What day?
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 26, 20213 min read
There’s unfairness, and there’s pandemic unfairness
Most of us try to manage a kind of almost-good-enough balance in our relationships. And then this freaking pandemic descends...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 23, 20213 min read
The eight core experiences of love
Why is it so easy for us to lose our shit in our relationships? We just want to love and be loved!
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 20, 20214 min read
The one thing money can’t buy
Let me tell you about some of the billionaires I’ve worked with, plus another thing that’s utterly new about Why Couples Fight.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 18, 20214 min read
“What’s new about your new book?”
People often ask, especially since there are so many relationship books out there, what do you have to say that’s new?
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 15, 20213 min read
How to disagree with your partner?
This post is an article we just did in request for a piece on “disagree with your partner.” As you see, we disagree with the very premise..
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 13, 20213 min read
“Do we need to seek help for our relationship?”
You know, it’s not all that productive to worry about whether your relationship is “healthy” or about exactly how “healthy” it is. It...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 11, 20214 min read
Distance: The cold side of the dark side of relationships
“We get along okay. We just keep to our lanes. Though things are pretty bland. Boring, actually.”
This is the cold side of the dark side.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 9, 20213 min read
“What’s happening to our relationship?”
Why is it so hard for us to figure out what really the problem when things are going wrong in our relationships? This is worth exploring.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 7, 20213 min read
Making Memories
The average age for marriage in the US is about 29. Based on life expectancy, people married at the average age could expect to be...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 5, 20215 min read
The most important quality for a happy relationship??
What is the key to a happy relationship? The joke goes: “Love. Love and money. Love, money, and a very big boat."
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 31, 20204 min read
Too close for comfort
As we’re all finding out, COVID-19 is not only bad for our bodies and our pocketbooks, it’s bad for our relationships as well. But why?...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 15, 20204 min read
“I deserve better than this!”
Today we’re going to look at one of the things we do as individuals to make ourselves miserable. And it’s a big one...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 12, 20204 min read
“The truth? You can’t handle the truth!”
Of course it would be lovely if you never had to confess a long-buried—or even a recently buried—secret to your partner. It never goes well.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 10, 20204 min read
How imperfect people find true and lasting love
In my work with couples, I get to see the deep roots of later disasters. Joe and Ariel’s story is pretty typical.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 8, 20203 min read
The delights of hanging in there
People get married for good, not-so-good, and completely idiotic reasons. A lot of these marriages turn out to be bad.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 1, 20203 min read
Fighting’s for boxers, and arguing’s for lawyers
Fighting is really just the “don’t mess with me” posturing we do so we don’t lose. Except our partner does the same thing.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 27, 20203 min read
What we’ll be remembered for
I just spent the past three hours in a Zoom-based memorial celebration of
the life of a friend who died recently. My heart is full...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 21, 20201 min read
A note to the reader of Why Couples Fight
Let’s face it: you’re not holding this book in your hands because you’re totally happy in your relationship.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 14, 20202 min read
“Am I in a toxic marriage?”
I hear this question a lot. And there’s always a lot of pain behind it. Days and nights of something much more than frustration.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 10, 20203 min read
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