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Why Couples Fight

Should I hate the advice in my own book?

Mira Kirshenbaum

2 days ago
5 min

Should I hate the advice in my own book?

I never liked Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence, now twenty-five years old. I should have. What’s not to like?

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Emergency! You just screwed up! What do you do now!!

Mira Kirshenbaum

5 days ago
4 min

Emergency! You just screwed up! What do you do now!!

“You always hurt the one you love” is more than just a number 1 Billboard hit for the Mills Brothers in 1944. It’s a sad fact of life.

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You fall out of like before you fall out of love

Mira Kirshenbaum

6 days ago
3 min

You fall out of like before you fall out of love

When it comes to relationships, liking and disliking is a way more potent force than loving and not loving.

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Making love come alive in your relationship

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 10
3 min

Making love come alive in your relationship

That’s what I want to do now: get you inspired, fired up, around the idea of bringing the love back into your relationship.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 8
5 min

Is your partner a power person?

What is a Power Person? Well, a Power Person is not just a powerful person.

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It’s up to you: do you want to say something momentarily gratifying or genuinely useful?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 6
4 min

It’s up to you: do you want to say something momentarily gratifying or genuinely useful?

What we call “giving someone a piece of our mind” is really just a power move.

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You think your partner’s just too powerful for you. Now what?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 3
4 min

You think your partner’s just too powerful for you. Now what?

There are three kinds of power advantages a person can have, and each involves its own solutions.

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What was killing all those women during childbirth?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 1
4 min

What was killing all those women during childbirth?

I don’t know anything about his bedside manner, but no doctor was more dedicated to saving women’s lives than Ignaz Semmelweis.

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Who gets the scarce resources in your relationship?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 30
4 min

Who gets the scarce resources in your relationship?

A super-rich older a**hole digs up a soon-to-be aging model and proposes a prenup...I mean, a marriage to her.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 27
3 min

On loving better

There is nothing sexier, more romantic, more endearing than making your partner feel you’ve really heard them.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 24
4 min

The Learning Self

We can heal ourselves. We do that all the time. We do that through our body’s immune system. What’s more, the immune system can learn.

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When things aren’t changing fast enough for you

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 23
4 min

When things aren’t changing fast enough for you

You’re working on your relationship, you think, doing everything you can, but nothing seems to make a difference.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 20
4 min

A power move you can celebrate

Who’d’ve thunk it? Mira Kirshenbaum saying YAY! to a power move. Have I lost my mind?

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A new relationship-saving technology for you

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 17
5 min

A new relationship-saving technology for you

With the power move, we disconnect. Without the power move, we connect.

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You may be more into power than you think you are

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 16
4 min

You may be more into power than you think you are

There are two huge problems with what we’re hearing about New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 13
4 min

It DOESN’T have to be this way

What’s the obstacle in the way of making a love-saving revolution in your relationship? There are only two obstacles, really.

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Male professors throwing chairs at female colleagues

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 11
3 min

Male professors throwing chairs at female colleagues

Academic books are about power in at least two obvious ways.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 9
4 min

Oh, the little power moves we make

Tom Brady Says He Tried to ‘Change the Subject’ When Wife Gisele Bündchen Brought Up His Retirement

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Is your relationship being poisoned by power struggles?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 6
2 min

Is your relationship being poisoned by power struggles?

“Yeah, we fight. Everybody fights. But ‘power struggles’? I don’t know. I don’t want to think we’re in that category.”

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 3
3 min

2 whole people = 1 whole relationship

If having a relationship were a game, how would you know your team won? What team? This doesn’t even compute for a lot of people.

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