5 Ways to get your partner to do what you want
Yes, Why Couples Fight is all about how to overcome conflicts in your relationship. But what if it’s simpler than that?
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Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 23, 2021
- 6 min
How to have a long and happy relationship
Well, here we are, celebrating our 56th wedding anniversary by sharing our thoughts with you about how to have a long and happy marriage.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 20, 2021
- 4 min
From “I’m sorry” to true healing
We’ve been talking about how your past haunts your present as a couple. Now we get to the really hard part.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 16, 2021
- 4 min
How, as a couple, you can heal something from your past
This time we want to talk about how you can recover when one of you has done something to hurt the other, damaging trust and intimacy.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 15, 2021
- 4 min
Is your relationship haunted by your past?
We all carry this baggage around with us. The longer we’re married, the more of this baggage there is.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 10, 2021
- 4 min
4 signs your partner may be falling out of love with you
When people come to me in this last period I can only wish they’d come sooner. So what are the warning signs?
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 8, 2021
- 3 min
Bastards, bitches, and the stress implosion
Whenever we need our partner to be there for us, we’re walking into their stress movie. We’re walking into just how stressed out they are.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 6, 2021
- 3 min
Has hope always been kind to you? Or has it ever been cruel?
Welcome to the second and last part of our posts on why we dare to say that Why Couples Fight is an important book.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 3, 2021
- 4 min
Important? Revolutionary? What do you think?
We said somewhere that we thought Why Couples Fight was an important book. Well, it had to happen: a reader challenged us on that.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jul 1, 2021
- 3 min
“I can’t do this anymore.” Oh, really?
Here’s how breaking up is done these days.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 28, 2021
- 3 min
Is your relationship going to “work out”?
Relationships aren’t like machines that work or don’t work, depending on how well designed they are.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 25, 2021
- 3 min
Dog meets kitten, and they teach us about power
You know me: I always have to be a-learning things from everywhere.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 23, 2021
- 3 min
Guys: work on your marriage or drop dead
The article I want to talk about today is Unsuccessful marriages a high-risk factor for premature death among men.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 18, 2021
- 4 min
People who should never get together
“Hi, are you highly sensitive and do you tend to over-react?”
“Why, yes I am! What about you?”
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 15, 2021
- 3 min
Is your relationship in a trap?
Trap theory? It’s all about how we get stuck in situations we don’t want to be in.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 11, 2021
- 3 min
Fear is to love what termites are to houses
My point is simple, but deep and rich: when you want to understand what is going wrong in a relationship, find the fears.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 8, 2021
- 4 min
“Will you be there for me when I need you?”
The 2020 movie Supernova is about love, unavoidable tragedy, and forgiveness. It’s also about a problem we will all face one way or another.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- Jun 4, 2021
- 5 min
Your mistakes will always catch up with you
Just imagine: you and the person you’re going with are super smart and super-duper rich. And you have tons in common.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- May 31, 2021
- 2 min
What power imbalances might be costing you
A new study just came out showing yet again that in our relationships social dominance—power!—causes pain and damage for our partners.
Mira Kirshenbaum
- May 25, 2021
- 4 min
Portrait of an incident
Let’s call them Al and Alice, and a nice normal couple they are. They get along pretty well, too. But they had an incident.