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You fall out of like before you fall out of love
When it comes to relationships, liking and disliking is a way more potent force than loving and not loving.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Apr 13, 20213 min read
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It’s up to you: do you want to say something momentarily gratifying or genuinely useful?
What we call “giving someone a piece of our mind” is really just a power move.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Apr 6, 20214 min read
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You think your partner’s just too powerful for you. Now what?
There are three kinds of power advantages a person can have, and each involves its own solutions.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Apr 3, 20214 min read
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A new relationship-saving technology for you
With the power move, we disconnect. Without the power move, we connect.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 17, 20215 min read
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You may be more into power than you think you are
There are two huge problems with what we’re hearing about New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 16, 20214 min read
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It DOESN’T have to be this way
What’s the obstacle in the way of making a love-saving revolution in your relationship? There are only two obstacles, really.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 13, 20214 min read
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Male professors throwing chairs at female colleagues
Academic books are about power in at least two obvious ways.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 11, 20213 min read
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Oh, the little power moves we make
Tom Brady Says He Tried to ‘Change the Subject’ When Wife Gisele Bündchen Brought Up His Retirement
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 9, 20214 min read
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Is your relationship being poisoned by power struggles?
“Yeah, we fight. Everybody fights. But ‘power struggles’? I don’t know. I don’t want to think we’re in that category.”
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 6, 20212 min read
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2 whole people = 1 whole relationship
If having a relationship were a game, how would you know your team won? What team? This doesn’t even compute for a lot of people.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Mar 3, 20213 min read
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“How do I get you to do what I want you to do?”
As you already know, or feel, housework is a hotbed of power politics. Mostly, the struggle upward away from the jobs no one wants to do.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 27, 20215 min read
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Conflict! Distance!! Unmet needs!!!
Self-help books—unless they’re utterly incoherent—are all built around the same basic plan: Problem. Promise. Program.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 25, 20213 min read
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Do you want to go down the road to hell?
And when I say the road to hell, I’m talking about your relationship going down the road to hell.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 23, 20213 min read
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Should we blame our parents for the way we are now?
How much and in what way are our parents responsible for the problems we have in our marriage now?
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 15, 20214 min read
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The ultimate secret for bringing back love
It’s so simple. You and your partner just sit down and write down the 7 things that make you feel loved.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 12, 20214 min read
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Top 7 Rules for bringing affection back
Affection is just like artistic creativity. When artists start out, they’re pushed forward by a surge of feeling. “I MUST express myself!”
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 11, 20214 min read
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The affection you’ve been looking for
Why Couples Fight isn’t really about fighting or power. It’s about love. And the hope of love. And how to keep love alive.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 8, 20213 min read
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Imagine having a car that repaired itself!
What if you can’t solve the problem of not being able to solve your problems? Cars can’t even solve their own problems. If your car...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Feb 4, 20213 min read
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What power moves have to do with you
Here’s something else that makes Why Couples Fight a revolutionary book.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 30, 20213 min read
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6 Signs Power Problems Are Poisoning Your Relationship
What do power issues have to do with a relationship being in trouble? Everything!
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 28, 20215 min read
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