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“Do we need to seek help for our relationship?”
You know, it’s not all that productive to worry about whether your relationship is “healthy” or about exactly how “healthy” it is. It...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 11, 20214 min read
Distance: The cold side of the dark side of relationships
“We get along okay. We just keep to our lanes. Though things are pretty bland. Boring, actually.”
This is the cold side of the dark side.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 9, 20213 min read
“What’s happening to our relationship?”
Why is it so hard for us to figure out what really the problem when things are going wrong in our relationships? This is worth exploring.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 7, 20213 min read
Making Memories
The average age for marriage in the US is about 29. Based on life expectancy, people married at the average age could expect to be...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 4, 20215 min read
Everything will change. Nothing will be different.
Anyway, I don’t know about you, but I woke up this morning in this brand-new year and found I looked just the way I did last year.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jan 1, 20213 min read
The most important quality for a happy relationship??
What is the key to a happy relationship? The joke goes: “Love. Love and money. Love, money, and a very big boat."
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 31, 20204 min read
You are bigger than your life
The one thing we know, even if we’ve not put it into these words, is that we’re bigger than our lives. We could have and can do more.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 29, 20203 min read
The way home
Back in Boston, our bedroom was up in the trees, and right outside were the squirrels with their bedrooms.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 26, 20202 min read
Our holiday greetings to you
This is a season of love, joy, peace, and hope. May it be so for you.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 24, 20201 min read
Living in a worry culture
In the previous two posts I talked about why we shouldn’t worry and about how to stop worrying, but there was something missing...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 22, 20203 min read
Worry is the cracker crumbs in the bed of life
What is worrying, exactly? It’s restless, pointless sifting over and over through our fears and concerns without getting much out of the...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 19, 20205 min read
What, me worry? But...me DO worry!!
Almost everyone says it’s hard for them to stop worrying. Have you ever had someone say to you, “Oh, stop worrying!”
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 17, 20204 min read
Too close for comfort
As we’re all finding out, COVID-19 is not only bad for our bodies and our pocketbooks, it’s bad for our relationships as well. But why?...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 15, 20204 min read
“I deserve better than this!”
Today we’re going to look at one of the things we do as individuals to make ourselves miserable. And it’s a big one...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 12, 20204 min read
“The truth? You can’t handle the truth!”
Of course it would be lovely if you never had to confess a long-buried—or even a recently buried—secret to your partner. It never goes well.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 10, 20204 min read
How imperfect people find true and lasting love
In my work with couples, I get to see the deep roots of later disasters. Joe and Ariel’s story is pretty typical.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 8, 20203 min read
Our first book giveaway. Yay!
Long before the release date, our lovely publisher is offering 100 free copies of my new book, Why Couples Fight to YOU.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 5, 20201 min read
Girls: crushed to death or being brought to life?
For those of you who don’t know, Girls’ Life is a magazine for tween and teen girls. Get ’em while they’re young, right?
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 2, 20201 min read
The delights of hanging in there
People get married for good, not-so-good, and completely idiotic reasons. A lot of these marriages turn out to be bad.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 1, 20203 min read
Fighting’s for boxers, and arguing’s for lawyers
Fighting is really just the “don’t mess with me” posturing we do so we don’t lose. Except our partner does the same thing.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 27, 20203 min read
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