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“I deserve better than this!”
Today we’re going to look at one of the things we do as individuals to make ourselves miserable. And it’s a big one...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 12, 20204 min read
“The truth? You can’t handle the truth!”
Of course it would be lovely if you never had to confess a long-buried—or even a recently buried—secret to your partner. It never goes well.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 10, 20204 min read
How imperfect people find true and lasting love
In my work with couples, I get to see the deep roots of later disasters. Joe and Ariel’s story is pretty typical.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 8, 20203 min read
Girls: crushed to death or being brought to life?
For those of you who don’t know, Girls’ Life is a magazine for tween and teen girls. Get ’em while they’re young, right?
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 2, 20201 min read
The delights of hanging in there
People get married for good, not-so-good, and completely idiotic reasons. A lot of these marriages turn out to be bad.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Dec 1, 20203 min read
Fighting’s for boxers, and arguing’s for lawyers
Fighting is really just the “don’t mess with me” posturing we do so we don’t lose. Except our partner does the same thing.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 27, 20203 min read
Giving Thanks
Thank you, dear readers, from the bottom of my heart, for being here for me, for listening to me, for hearing me...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 26, 20202 min read
Reality... really?
What we’ve been talking about is how important it is for us—all of us—to embrace reality.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 24, 20205 min read
What we’ll be remembered for
I just spent the past three hours in a Zoom-based memorial celebration of
the life of a friend who died recently. My heart is full...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 21, 20201 min read
Reality...really?
When we left off last time, I said that today we’re going to see how seeing
reality straight on can make you sane, instead of driving you...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 19, 20204 min read
Reality...really?
If you’re not sick to death of what’s laughingly called reality, then you’re just
not normal. I mean, come on! Reality sucks!!
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 17, 20204 min read
A note to the reader of Why Couples Fight
Let’s face it: you’re not holding this book in your hands because you’re totally happy in your relationship.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 14, 20202 min read
“Am I in a toxic marriage?”
I hear this question a lot. And there’s always a lot of pain behind it. Days and nights of something much more than frustration.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 10, 20203 min read
When you feel you’re drowning in a world of uncertainty
Maybe you’re in a marriage and you don’t know if it’ll work out or if you want it to work out. Maybe you don’t have a job...
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 6, 20204 min read
Whatever you do, don’t wait
Waiting sucks. That’s why today, tonight, and maybe tomorrow and days after will be torture for so many of us. But why?
Mira Kirshenbaum
Nov 4, 20203 min read
"I'm Freakin' Out Over This Freakin' Election!"
There you are—and here I am—and here we all are!—in a state of high anxiety over this Presidential election that’s right around the corner.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Oct 31, 20205 min read
Welcome back!
...so, let’s see—where was I? Oh, yeah! Sorry!! I just stepped out of the room for a couple of years and I lost my train of thought.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Sep 29, 20202 min read
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