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With the power move, we disconnect. Without the power move, we connect.
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Mar 17, 20215 min read
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It DOESN’T have to be this way
What’s the obstacle in the way of making a love-saving revolution in your relationship? There are only two obstacles, really.
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Mar 13, 20214 min read
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Is your relationship being poisoned by power struggles?
“Yeah, we fight. Everybody fights. But ‘power struggles’? I don’t know. I don’t want to think we’re in that category.”
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Mar 6, 20212 min read
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Conflict! Distance!! Unmet needs!!!
Self-help books—unless they’re utterly incoherent—are all built around the same basic plan: Problem. Promise. Program.
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Feb 25, 20213 min read
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Do you want to go down the road to hell?
And when I say the road to hell, I’m talking about your relationship going down the road to hell.
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Feb 23, 20213 min read
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Should we blame our parents for the way we are now?
How much and in what way are our parents responsible for the problems we have in our marriage now?
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Feb 15, 20214 min read
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Anatomy of a fight
There’s always a history of disempowerment. Jason’s a very successful executive in a job where many of the people he works with are women.
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Feb 6, 20215 min read
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6 Signs Power Problems Are Poisoning Your Relationship
What do power issues have to do with a relationship being in trouble? Everything!
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Jan 28, 20215 min read
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Welcome to the relationship revolution
If you’re reading this on Tuesday, January 26, 2021, then THIS is the day. What day?
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Jan 26, 20213 min read
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The one thing money can’t buy
Let me tell you about some of the billionaires I’ve worked with, plus another thing that’s utterly new about Why Couples Fight.
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Jan 18, 20214 min read
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“What’s new about your new book?”
People often ask, especially since there are so many relationship books out there, what do you have to say that’s new?
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Jan 15, 20213 min read
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How to disagree with your partner?
This post is an article we just did in request for a piece on “disagree with your partner.” As you see, we disagree with the very premise..
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Jan 13, 20213 min read
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“Do we need to seek help for our relationship?”
You know, it’s not all that productive to worry about whether your relationship is “healthy” or about exactly how “healthy” it is. It...
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Jan 11, 20214 min read
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Distance: The cold side of the dark side of relationships
“We get along okay. We just keep to our lanes. Though things are pretty bland. Boring, actually.”
This is the cold side of the dark side.
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Jan 9, 20213 min read
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“What’s happening to our relationship?”
Why is it so hard for us to figure out what really the problem when things are going wrong in our relationships? This is worth exploring.
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Jan 7, 20213 min read
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The most important quality for a happy relationship??
What is the key to a happy relationship? The joke goes: “Love. Love and money. Love, money, and a very big boat."
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Dec 31, 20204 min read
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How imperfect people find true and lasting love
In my work with couples, I get to see the deep roots of later disasters. Joe and Ariel’s story is pretty typical.
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Dec 8, 20203 min read
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Fighting’s for boxers, and arguing’s for lawyers
Fighting is really just the “don’t mess with me” posturing we do so we don’t lose. Except our partner does the same thing.
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Nov 27, 20203 min read
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The Breakup Pandemic: Part Two
So there you are, driving each other freakin’ nuts. What do you do about it? Well, where are you, exactly?
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Oct 21, 20203 min read
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The Breakup Pandemic: Part One
Before the pandemic, the two of you had worked out a sort of equilibrium based on going to work. There was something about being out of...
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Oct 14, 20202 min read
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