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Welcome to our 100th blog post!!!
Well, here we are, you and I. It seems like just a few weeks since we started posting to this blog, and now we’re up to our hundredth post.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 18, 20212 min read
People who should never get together
“Hi, are you highly sensitive and do you tend to over-react?”
“Why, yes I am! What about you?”
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 17, 20214 min read
Is your relationship in a trap?
Trap theory? It’s all about how we get stuck in situations we don’t want to be in.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 15, 20213 min read
Fear is to love what termites are to houses
My point is simple, but deep and rich: when you want to understand what is going wrong in a relationship, find the fears.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 11, 20213 min read
The circle, the line, and the dot:
It happens to all couples, and it doesn’t mean you’re on the skids. You’re just in a bad place and don’t seem to know how to get out of it.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 9, 20212 min read
“Will you be there for me when I need you?”
The 2020 movie Supernova is about love, unavoidable tragedy, and forgiveness. It’s also about a problem we will all face one way or another.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 8, 20214 min read
Your mistakes will always catch up with you
Just imagine: you and the person you’re going with are super smart and super-duper rich. And you have tons in common.
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 4, 20215 min read
When stress hits your relationship
We were recently interviewed by Psych Central about the effects of stress on relationships. Good topic!
Mira Kirshenbaum
Jun 2, 20214 min read
What power imbalances might be costing you
A new study just came out showing yet again that in our relationships social dominance—power!—causes pain and damage for our partners.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 31, 20212 min read
You can have any kind of marriage you like
Well, it had to happen, and it did. Two best friends got married. As best friends. And the New York Times was all over it.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 28, 20213 min read
“Who are you, anyway?”
Who is writing these very words?, you might wonder. And well you might wonder, too. So let’s clear up—or add to—the confusion.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 26, 20213 min read
Portrait of an incident
Let’s call them Al and Alice, and a nice normal couple they are. They get along pretty well, too. But they had an incident.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 25, 20214 min read
“I need you to explain this to me, please”
It was the worst thing I’ve ever heard: a recording of a 911 call a woman made just as a man attacked her with a knife in her living room.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 21, 20215 min read
How to get your partner to do what you want
Training a partner is the same as training a puppy. When it comes to changing behavior, partners and puppies are pretty much the same thing.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 20, 20213 min read
How you can (both!) win the expectations game
People’s experience of marriage is too often that it’s a series of broken promises, big and small. Why?
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 18, 20214 min read
“Yes, you’ve heard me!!”
Last time we started talking about how it happens that we talk to our partners but don’t feel heard and what we can do about it.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 15, 20214 min read
“Why can’t you hear me when I talk to you?”
A couple is “clarifying” things early on in their relationship. Maggie says, “If I found out you were cheating on me, I’d be devastated.”
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 13, 20214 min read
When you need hope
This is a story about a young woman who, in a way, came back from death, and about a very special white cat.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 11, 20215 min read
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay is a #1 Bestseller
As of this morning Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay is the #1 Bestseller on Amazon in three categories.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 10, 20211 min read
Taking the power dynamics out of your sexual relationship
The paradise of a sexual relationship is one of wordless mutuality.
Mira Kirshenbaum
May 9, 20214 min read
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