Reviews & Articles
The Christian Science Monitor:
Harried marrieds Today's long work hours and hectic schedules can interfere with relationships - unless couples take charge.
Today, Weekend Edition &ndash MSNBC.com:
Who has time for relationships?
'The Weekend Marriage' author explores growing problem
The Washington Post – Health Section:
It's Time for Intimacy
The Early Show on CBS:
Having A 'Weekend Marriage'?
Oprah:
Five Best Things to Do for Your Relationship
From Amazon.com:
I recommend this book to all my patients
Dr. Peter Molinari from San Francisco, CA August 21, 2005
I have been a couples therapist for 20 years, and finally there is a book I can recommend whole heartedly to my patients. This book brilliantly makes the point that the lives we live these days aren't healthy for our relationships. If you've been wondering why there are problems in your marriage, this book is more likely to have the answer than any other. But the most important thing about this book is tremendously helpful advice it contains. I've racked my brain, and there is nothing left out. If you are living with someone in a committed relationship, read this book. It will make all the difference.
EVERY woman needs to read this book!
Carolyn O'Shea from Chicago, IL May 15, 2005
When I first ran across this book I thought, Hmmm, might be worth checking out. I counsel a lot of couples and I've long been aware how busy we all are these days. But The Weekend Marriage is a revelation. Finally someone has put her finger on what is causing so much trouble in our relationships: no time for love. This is important because as Kirshenbaum shows we can now stop the destructive business of blaming each other for the state of our relationships. What I think is very special about this book is the practical advise that really will, I'm sure, turn things around for every busy couple. There is real help here, not silly fluff. Kirshenbaum covers everything. How to bring closeness and affection back. How to stop fighting and still express your needs. How important it is to take care of yourself. How to break free of old patterns. I am going to beg all my patients and friends to read and use this blessedly short book that I really enjoyed. Thank you, Mira Kirshenbaum.
The best couples book EVER
Jenny Miller from Los Angeles, CA May 14, 2005
Thank GOD there is finally a book for married people that deals with the real problems we all face, and actually says something, and has tons of real help. On almost every page I thought, this is me, this is my life. And you can DO the things Kirshenbaum suggests, and they WORK. Throw all your other so-called relationship books away – this one sees you in your real life and offers real help. Oh, and it is really, really well written. I'm so impressed. I know this is going to make all the difference for me and my husband.
Editorial Reviews
If you're afraid of "turning into one of those couples who go into therapy because they bicker all the time,"[p. 120] search no more for marital advice. According to bestselling author Kirshenbaum, the ever-increasing divorce rates in the U.S. aren't due to the often-reported irreconcilable differences, but rather a lack of "quality time" together. As overused as that term is, Kirshenbaum (Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay) persuasively argues that the American state of matrimony is all too often the victim of what she calls "Murphy's law" of marriage: "The less time you have together, the more things go wrong in your relationship."[p. 3]
Her prescription for finding "abundant love" in a world that's bursting with beeping Palm Pilots is pretty simple. "Successful weekend-marriage couples ruthlessly put their marriage first. Tough nuggies to everyone else." [p.147] she warns that such prioritizing may tick off some family members, as she recommends that married folks cut way back on socializing with friends and even visiting aging relatives, if those visits can be implicated in a lack of couple time.
Some of her other advice is more palatable. She recommends that couples never keep joint checking accounts, as they're often a major source of stress and arguments. Instead, one spouse should be responsible for paying the mortgage, and the other the rest of the bills, if those amounts are roughly equal. Kirshenbaum also says that it's best to ignore each other for a while when you're both finally at home at dinnertime, so as to avoid the "negative energy" of venting about the day's stresses. Using Kirshenbaum's many "guerrilla tactics" for preserving (or resurrecting) romance, couples may very well find they have "less time for anger, more time for love." &ndash Erica Jorgensen
From Publisher's Weekly:
Today's overextended life leaves working couples with little time for real intimacy, says Kirshenbaum (Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay), and the less good time couples spend together, the greater the chances their relationship will sour. Lack of intimacy fosters misunderstandings, disagreements and tensions that could lead even loving spouses to divorce. In a conversational, empathetic manner, Kirshenbaum describes four strategies to restore affection, sex and joy to time-starved relationships: taking care of yourself, building hope, creating abundant love and healing the hurts. Kirshenbaum draws her suggestions from personal experience and from interviews with harried couples, providing a wide range of interesting possibilities. Get over anger is one tip: staying mad at your spouse takes up way too much time and negative energy. The author also suggests limiting the demands of relatives, friends and even children in order to put the relationship first. Techniques for personal revitalization are as simple as listening to music, taking a bath or getting a massage. Kirshenbaum's gentle advice could recharge many an exhausted marriageŅif busy couples can find time to read it. Agent, Howard Morhaim.(May)
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