Mira Kirshenbaum has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families. She is co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. A sought-after speaker, Mira is the author of nine award-winning books, some national and international bestsellers. She has appeared many times on the Today Show and has been interviewed by Oprah Winfrey.

Competition and conflict in relationships with a high-earning woman

Here’s another in our recurring ripped-from-the-headlines series.  This time we were interviewed about the situation that’s happening more and more these days where the woman earns more money than the man or is more successful than he is.  Or perhaps the man isn’t earning any money at all.  Is this damaging to relationships?  Why?  Here are our answers.

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How to assure that your next relationship won’t be abusive

A young woman I know is newly single.  She is starting to date again after a number of years.  And she is scared.  She’s heard a lot of stories among her friends of boyfriends and husbands who’ve turned abusive.  And now, to cap it off, she’s just learned that a friend of hers from a previous job was murdered by her ex.  This is scary stuff.  And now she really needs to know: how do you prevent getting into a relationship with someone like this?

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Maybe you can’t judge a book by its cover, but you can judge a cover by its cover!

We just got the cover of our new book, I Love You but I Don’t Trust You, from the publisher.  I’d love to get your feedback.  What do you think? 

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The importance of changing your routine

Here we are with another entry in our ripped-from-the-headlines series.  This interview was based on our award-winning book The Emotional Energy Factor.  And it has to do with the fact that being stuck in a routine is bad for your emotional health.  The good news is that none of us is stuck.  Help is possible, and it’s on the way:

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Where, how, and whether to have your first face-to-face

This is another in our ripped-from-the-headlines series.  This time it has to do with an interviewer asking us questions about dealing with someone you’ve met through an on-line dating site.  You’ve messaged each other, but now what?  Should you agree to meet?  And if so, how?  Here are our answers:

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So how DO you make things more exciting?

Last time, we dealt, among other things, with this question:

In our poll, the number one reason women reported cheating was because they were bored with their relationship. What are some new, creative ways to keep things exciting?

In our answer we said, in part:

Couples who are successful at keeping things exciting . . . make their LIVES more exciting. A good way to think about this is to do one huge new or exciting thing every year, one big new or exciting thing every month, and one small new or exciting thing every week.

The editor felt we weren’t specific enough.  Examples!, he demanded.  OK, here’s what we came up with:

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Cheating is one thing, lying is another

OK, folks, here it is: the latest in our Ripped from the Headlines series.  This time we were interviewed for a large publication.  Here’s the raw, unedited interview:

1. If a woman cheats on her husband or boyfriend, why should she keep it a secret? (Or in what circumstances?)

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And if you do this it could change your life

Every once in a while someone comes along and says something so well there is no way to improve upon it.  This is one of those times with Melissa Lafsky’s point about something all couples need to do before they get married.  Here’s how she puts it: Read the rest of this entry. »