MIRA KIRSHENBAUM

Mira Kirshenbaum has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families. She is co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. A sought-after speaker, Mira is the author of nine award-winning books, some national and international bestsellers. She has appeared many times on the Today Show and has been interviewed by Oprah Winfrey.

 I recently did an interview about men and women who have trouble committing.  The way these things work, only a few sentences of the interview will make it into print.  So for you, here’s the whole thing:

1. What are some of the reasons people are unable to commit to relationships, even if they want to? Read the rest of this entry. »

Our most recent book, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships, is about to come out in paperback.  Now is the time to pre-order your copy.  To see what people think about it, Read the rest of this entry. »

You know, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships has had a huge impact.  Of all the books we’ve written, this has led more people to contact us than any other.  And that makes sense.  This is an area where people are very much alone and in pain.  They need help badly.  And When Good People… provides that help. And now for all of you who need that help, and there are millions of you, there is good news.  Read the rest of this entry. »

OK, let’s just get right into it, part 2 of overcoming the obstacles couples face who aren’t having as much sex as they’d like.  Let’s deal with obstacles 7 through 13: Read the rest of this entry. »

OK, you’ve gone through the sex questions with each other, and that should make things a lot better.  But still, there are the 13 specific reasons why couples are having less sex.  And surely at least one of them applies to you.  So let’s go through them one at a time.  We’ll give you QUICK suggestions for how to overcome each obstacle.  There’s a lot to go through, so we’ll have to do this in two parts.  Read the rest of this entry. »

OK, so there 13 reasons why a couple might not be having as much sex these days.  So what do you do about it?  The answer might surprise you. Read the rest of this entry. »

We must’ve been having one of our slow days.  In our last blog we said there were 5 reasons people who’ve been together for awhile are not having much sex anymore.  But wait a minute!  5?!?!  There are 13 reasons!

And that’s good news for you.  You can’t solve your problem if you don’t know what causes it.  And so this means that now you can target just why your sex life isn’t as active as you’d like it to be.  We promise, promise, promise that we’ll give you solutions next time.  And it will be a solution targeted to your situation. 

Now please rock the vote on this one.  Let us know which of the 13 reasons below best explains why you and your partner aren’t having sex very often these days.  Let us know.  Here are the candidates: Read the rest of this entry. »

Is marriage a machine for creating babies and destroying sex?  That’s the way more and more people see it these days.  You start out filled with passion and the desire for intimacy.  Then the nonsense of daily life takes over, babies come, and sex flies out the window.  You’re too busy, too tired, too often pissed off at each other.  The next thing you know it’s been a very long time since you made love, and the more time passes, the harder it is.  At least it seems that way.

But is sex an inevitable casualty of marriage?  Absolutely not.  So what do you do about it?  Read the rest of this entry. »

It starts out with hopes that are sky high, and that’s where the trouble begins.  Mother has all the love in the world to give; she just wants the best for her daughter.  Daughter is adoring and malleable. 

But normal human being can’t live up to expectations like these.  And when neither is as wonderful as the other had hoped, trouble is brewing.  And so begins the most complicated relationship in the world  How do things go wrong, and how can we make them go right?  Read the rest of this entry. »

They’re at it again, and I know why.  Elizabeth Edwards, whose husband, former Senator and Presidential candidate John Edwards cheated on her while she was suffering from cancer, is getting yelled at by snarky and clueless folks ranging from Maureen Dowd in the New York Times to Kathleen Parker in The Daily Beast.  Her “crime” seems to be that she somehow provoked her own betrayal (“She was asking for it”: you know, like rape victims!), that she didn’t walk out on him (all her accusers are convinced they they would be much stronger than poor stupid Elizabeth), and that she has been talking about what happened in public (“Doesn’t she have the decency to hide in shame like a proper cheated-on woman?”). 

Why this orgy of beating up on a victim of betrayal?  Read the rest of this entry. »