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The secret for finding true love Pt. 7

Mira and Charles — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:43:01 +0000

We’ve been getting a lot of good feedback about this series. One woman wrote to tell us that when she first read these secrets in Women & Love it changed her life. Last time we talked about how it’s not just about his finding room in his heart for you. It’s about his finding room in his life for your energy, drive, ambition, passions, and interests. This time the secret we want to tell you about is (more…)

The secret for finding true love Pt. 6

Mira and Charles — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:27:42 +0000

. . . and continuing right along with our series on the secrets of finding true love. Last time we talked about how it’s not about how much you love him. It’s about how he helps you love yourself. This time the secret we want to tell you about is: (more…)

The secret for finding true love Pt. 5

Mira and Charles — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:36:12 +0000

After a couple of days on other topics, we’re back with our series on the secrets of finding true love. Last time we talked about how it’s not about how great he is. It’s about how great you can become alongside of him. Here’s what we want to look at today:

It’s not about how much you love him. It’s about (more…)

When is it too late?

Mira and Charles — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 21:04:01 +0000

Saving your relationship before it’s too late

I was listening to a patient the other day tell me about problems in his relationship: resentments, disappointments, fights, lack of time together. And I found myself telling him, “You guys need help. Fast. Your relationship is close to the breaking point. Too often people wake up to find their relationship is already broken before they’ve even realized how bad the damage is.”

And he said, “Tell me more about this breaking point.”

And I started to wonder, just how do you define the point where a relationship is broken? (more…)

Obsessing about a partner’s sexual past

Mira and Charles — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 14:08:48 +0000

What’s wrong with this picture?

Here’s the latest in our ripped-from-the-headlines series. I (Charles!) was interviewed by Tracy Clark-Flory, an ace reporter for Salon, for a piece about a man who said he was fixated on his wife’s sexual history. Who’s fault was it? And was it normal? (more…)

The secret for finding true love Pt. 4

Mira and Charles — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:50:51 +0000

OK, here we go, onward with our series on the secrets of finding true love. Last time we talked about how “It’s not about losing yourself in him. It’s about becoming true to yourself with him.” The next secret is . . . (more…)

The secret for finding true love Pt. 3

Mira and Charles — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 15:35:54 +0000

OK, here we are back with our series on the secret for finding true love. Last time we looked at how “It’s not just how you feel about him. It’s much more how he makes you feel about yourself.” This time we will look at the next important secret: (more…)

Our latest interview

Mira and Charles — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:43:43 +0000

A fascinating discussion

Here is an interview with Charles Foster that we know you’ll be glad to read. It is already getting a lot of comments! And it just might change your life. Check it out!

And don’t forget to order our latest and perhaps most important book, I Love You but I Don’t Trust You.

“I Love You but I Don’t Trust You”

Mira and Charles — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 17:16:10 +0000

First review, and it’s a good one!

Just saw our first review of I Love You but I Don’t Trust You! Here it is, it and very nicely captures just what we were trying to do:

From the Library Journal

Whether one is recovering from a major betrayal, a lack of openness, or a history of hurts, psychotherapist Kirshenbaum (When Good People Have Affairs) argues [in I Love You but I Don’t Trust You] that couples can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and feel secure with each other once again. She uses her own and others’ experiences as well as psychological research to show how mistrust enters a relationship (e.g., unequal power), how trust can be restored, and how to safeguard a relationship so it will never happen again. Kirshenbaum also includes an assessment of whether a relationship can be saved. This book will offer a secure foothold to anyone who is feeling betrayed but wants to hang in there.

“I Love You but I Don’t Trust You”

Mira and Charles — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 18:20:57 +0000

Chapter 1 excerpt

(Following up on the overview of our new book yesterday, here’s the excerpt I promised from the first chapter of I Love You but I Don’t Trust You.)

I know. You feel so hurt, so scared, so angry. There’s nothing worse than when someone betrays you and you feel you can’t trust them. You can’t imagine it’s possible that you would ever trust that person again, and at this moment you may not even want to try.

And yet (more…)