Dr. Charles Foster has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families and as a consultant for organizations of all sizes. He is co-founder and research director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. And with Mira Kirshenbaum, he is author, co-author, and lead researcher of over thirteen books. He has lectured at the Harvard Medical School and has made numerous TV appearances.
Charles's Latest Blog Entries:
“I Love You but I Don’t Trust You”
by Mira and Charles on January 9th, 2012Coming very soon
If you had one wish for one breakthrough that would immediately help more couples than anything else, what would it be? For me, that question is easy to answer. As a couples therapist for over 30 years, I know my one wish would be for a way to restore trust in relationships. Why do I say this? Read the rest of this entry. »
The secret for finding true love Pt. 2
by Mira and Charles on January 4th, 2012Last time we gave you all 9 secrets for finding true love, all from our book Women & Love. Here we start taking a brief look at each secret, to make sure you know how to put it into practice. And by the way, if you happen to be a man, STAY PUT, because Read the rest of this entry. »
The secret for finding true love
by Mira and Charles on December 30th, 2011There are few things we get asked about more often: “What was that wonderful thing you wrote about finding true love …?” Well, this is the perfect time to bring that out here. The holiday season is exactly when so many relationships take a turn, sometimes ending (painfully but, we hope, wisely), sometimes moving toward commitment (also, we hope, wisely). This is a great time to help people avoid a terrible mistake. And so here is the secret for finding true love… Read the rest of this entry. »
The best New Year’s resolutions ever
by Mira and Charles on December 21st, 2011Make resolutions you’ll be happy to keep
I know what you’re thinking. Here comes another new year, and there are those things you don’t like about yourself or your life (and who wants to think about that!). And sure as winter brings cold and snow to us up here in Boston, you feel a determination bubble up within you to change things. “This will be the year…” And like lots of us you feel on the verge yet again to make a New Year’s Resolution.
DON’T! Unless … Read the rest of this entry. »
Will power!
by Mira and Charles on December 16th, 2011The truth about will power
Will power is like one of those crazy, evil lovers who will always tempt you and always let you down. More tears have been shed, more fists pounded on tables as a result of failed searches for more will power than almost anything else.
Nothing saps our emotional energy than the futile attempt to gain will power.
So it’s time we told the truth about will power, about what works and what doesn’t. Read the rest of this entry. »
The True Secrets for Happy Marriage
by Mira and Charles on December 13th, 2011The ultimate, best ever, top 10 do’s and don’ts for having a long, satisfying marriage
If you want a long, happy marriage, all you need is a bathroom mirror. Then write down these 10 do’s and don’ts, tape them to the side of your bathroom mirror where you can see them every day, and you’ll be all set. Of course you actually have to do the do’s and not do the don’ts, but that’s a mere detail.
The point is — and it’s a revolutionary point, when you think about it — that you don’t have to be a genius or a saint for the two of you to stay happy with each other. Love is a strong, healthy force. All you have to do is nurture it a little bit and avoid screwing it up too badly. And it will be there for you when you’re in your golden years.
Okay, in no particular order, here are our top 10 most important do’s and don’ts: Read the rest of this entry. »
How to have a happy holiday
by Mira and Charles on December 9th, 2011Less stress, more joy: how’s that for an idea?
There are two kinds of people. There are those who simplify and streamline their holidays. And there are those who have stressed-out, disappointing holidays.
So your choice is clear. Please. I’m begging you. [If you could see me, you’d find me on my knees beseeching you.] Let this be the year when Read the rest of this entry. »
Swinging revisited
by Mira and Charles on December 5th, 2011A cautionary tale
In a recent piece we talked about swinging and whether it made sense as something for a couple to get into. As you could easily tell, we were wildly unenthusiastic about swinging. Our position being that it is usually a really bad idea.
Well, here’s a Dear Prudence piece that illustrates what we were talking about: the way things can go REALLY haywire when you try swinging. It shows one way things can go wrong; there are dozens. If you really want to spice up your sex life without risking disaster, there’s real help in the sex chapter in Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad.
The fallout from affairs
by Mira and Charles on December 3rd, 2011Handling an affair is all about handling the aftermath
This is yet another in our ripped-from-the-headlines series. Here we have some questions from an interview from a very popular web magazine. The occasion? Herman Cain’s alleged affair with Ginger White and his dropping out of the primary race. Here are the questions and our answers: Read the rest of this entry. »
Five easy ways to renew your marriage
by Mira and Charles on December 1st, 2011New year, new you, new marriage
Want to renovate your kitchen or bathroom? Tens of thousands of dollars and a ton of aggravation. If you want the biggest bang for your buck, why not renovate your marriage? It’s free, easier than you think, and has a huge payoff.
Here are the top five things you can do to renovate your marriage for the new year: Read the rest of this entry. »
