Dr. Charles Foster has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families and as a consultant for organizations of all sizes. He is co-founder and research director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. And with Mira Kirshenbaum, he is author, co-author, and lead researcher of over thirteen books. He has lectured at the Harvard Medical School and has made numerous TV appearances.
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When is it too late?
by Mira and Charles on January 28th, 2012Saving your relationship before it’s too late
I was listening to a patient the other day tell me about problems in his relationship: resentments, disappointments, fights, lack of time together. And I found myself telling him, “You guys need help. Fast. Your relationship is close to the breaking point. Too often people wake up to find their relationship is already broken before they’ve even realized how bad the damage is.”
And he said, “Tell me more about this breaking point.”
And I started to wonder, just how do you define the point where a relationship is broken? Read the rest of this entry. »
Obsessing about a partner’s sexual past
by Mira and Charles on January 27th, 2012What’s wrong with this picture?
Here’s the latest in our ripped-from-the-headlines series. I (Charles!) was interviewed by Tracy Clark-Flory, an ace reporter for Salon, for a piece about a man who said he was fixated on his wife’s sexual history. Who’s fault was it? And was it normal? Read the rest of this entry. »
The secret for finding true love Pt. 4
by Mira and Charles on January 23rd, 2012OK, here we go, onward with our series on the secrets of finding true love. Last time we talked about how “It’s not about losing yourself in him. It’s about becoming true to yourself with him.” The next secret is . . . Read the rest of this entry. »
The secret for finding true love Pt. 3
by Mira and Charles on January 21st, 2012OK, here we are back with our series on the secret for finding true love. Last time we looked at how “It’s not just how you feel about him. It’s much more how he makes you feel about yourself.” This time we will look at the next important secret: Read the rest of this entry. »
Our latest interview
by Mira and Charles on January 18th, 2012A fascinating discussion
Here is an interview with Charles Foster that we know you’ll be glad to read. It is already getting a lot of comments! And it just might change your life. Check it out!
And don’t forget to order our latest and perhaps most important book, I Love You but I Don’t Trust You.
“I Love You but I Don’t Trust You”
by Mira and Charles on January 11th, 2012First review, and it’s a good one!
Just saw our first review of I Love You but I Don’t Trust You! Here it is, it and very nicely captures just what we were trying to do:
From the Library Journal
Whether one is recovering from a major betrayal, a lack of openness, or a history of hurts, psychotherapist Kirshenbaum (When Good People Have Affairs) argues [in I Love You but I Don’t Trust You] that couples can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and feel secure with each other once again. She uses her own and others’ experiences as well as psychological research to show how mistrust enters a relationship (e.g., unequal power), how trust can be restored, and how to safeguard a relationship so it will never happen again. Kirshenbaum also includes an assessment of whether a relationship can be saved. This book will offer a secure foothold to anyone who is feeling betrayed but wants to hang in there.
“I Love You but I Don’t Trust You”
by Mira and Charles on January 10th, 2012Chapter 1 excerpt
(Following up on the overview of our new book yesterday, here’s the excerpt I promised from the first chapter of I Love You but I Don’t Trust You.)
I know. You feel so hurt, so scared, so angry. There’s nothing worse than when someone betrays you and you feel you can’t trust them. You can’t imagine it’s possible that you would ever trust that person again, and at this moment you may not even want to try.
And yet Read the rest of this entry. »
“I Love You but I Don’t Trust You”
by Mira and Charles on January 9th, 2012Coming very soon
If you had one wish for one breakthrough that would immediately help more couples than anything else, what would it be? For me, that question is easy to answer. As a couples therapist for over 30 years, I know my one wish would be for a way to restore trust in relationships. Why do I say this? Read the rest of this entry. »
The secret for finding true love Pt. 2
by Mira and Charles on January 4th, 2012Last time we gave you all 9 secrets for finding true love, all from our book Women & Love. Here we start taking a brief look at each secret, to make sure you know how to put it into practice. And by the way, if you happen to be a man, STAY PUT, because Read the rest of this entry. »
The secret for finding true love
by Mira and Charles on December 30th, 2011There are few things we get asked about more often: “What was that wonderful thing you wrote about finding true love …?” Well, this is the perfect time to bring that out here. The holiday season is exactly when so many relationships take a turn, sometimes ending (painfully but, we hope, wisely), sometimes moving toward commitment (also, we hope, wisely). This is a great time to help people avoid a terrible mistake. And so here is the secret for finding true love… Read the rest of this entry. »
