A recent piece in the NYTimes tells a story of love and family restored after divorce. No, the marriage wasn’t restored. And no, the kind of love that brings people into a relationship wasn’t restored either. But here is a real, and realistic, picture of happy family life post-divorce.
Let’s call this family restoration. The divorce is a given. The grownups are definitely moving on to new lives, perhaps new relationships. But the grownups get along like grownups, and there is the possible of real affection between them. The co-parenting may not go more smoothly than co-parenting does in the typical marriage, but it happens without any unnecessary disagreement. And the family spends happy, comfortable time together. Not a grim facade of fake getting along. But real family feeling—the kind that makes the kids happy to be there, and the grownups too.