We are all drowning in a sea of advice. Not just bad advice—which is bad enough—but advice of all kinds, and it’s causing lots of problems. This advice assault can, and WILL, wash over you no matter what you’re struggling with: from being stuck in traffic to having a dog with cancer, from losing your job to losing your hair, from breaking up with your lover to breaking out in pimples, from getting sick to getting old.
Here’s an example of how this plague of advice works. A woman I know is going through a very painful time. Her marriage has just blown up. Horrible! Family, friends, everyone at work, mere acquaintances know all about it, and seem determined to make things worse. The advice never stops. This woman has to walk a gauntlet of mostly well intentioned people saying a lot of things that are almost always more hurtful than helpful.
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