We’ve all seen it happen. You start out in love. Over the moon, stars in your eyes. You’ve found the man or woman of your dreams. And…well, sure, he or she isn’t perfect. Neither are you. But this time, you think, you’ve got it right. This is going to work.
And at first it does. Yes, there are speed bumps and a few fender benders—he can get lost in work, she’s short tempered when she’s tired, there’s a certain lack of sympathy when you aren’t feeling well—but mostly things are just fine.
But then… It’s hard to say what happens, or how, or exactly when. It’s just that one day…it’s like the moment when you’ve been eating cookies and you reach in the bag and you realizes that all that’s left are crumbs and broken pieces. Not one good cookie left. And for some strange reason you just want to cry.
You’re life is good. It’s just the stuff between you that isn’t so hot. Yes, you still love each other. But love itself? It’s hard to describe. You feel like roommates with a complicated relationship and a lot of irritations and disappointments who’ve somehow managed to build some sort of life together.
You can stay together, though sometimes you daydream about leaving. Staying isn’t the problem. That just takes grit, and the momentum of your daily lives.
The problem is (more…)