There are few things we get asked about more often: “What was that wonderful thing you wrote about finding true love …?” Well, this is the perfect time to bring that out here. The holiday season is exactly when so many relationships take a turn, sometimes ending (painfully but, we hope, wisely), sometimes moving toward commitment (also, we hope, wisely). This is a great time to help people avoid a terrible mistake. And so here is the secret for finding true love… (more…)
Archive for December 2011
Make resolutions you’ll be happy to keep
I know what you’re thinking. Here comes another new year, and there are those things you don’t like about yourself or your life (and who wants to think about that!). And sure as winter brings cold and snow to us up here in Boston, you feel a determination bubble up within you to change things. “This will be the year…” And like lots of us you feel on the verge yet again to make a New Year’s Resolution.
DON’T! Unless … (more…)
The truth about will power
Will power is like one of those crazy, evil lovers who will always tempt you and always let you down. More tears have been shed, more fists pounded on tables as a result of failed searches for more will power than almost anything else.
Nothing saps our emotional energy than the futile attempt to gain will power.
So it’s time we told the truth about will power, about what works and what doesn’t. (more…)
The ultimate, best ever, top 10 do’s and don’ts for having a long, satisfying marriage
If you want a long, happy marriage, all you need is a bathroom mirror. Then write down these 10 do’s and don’ts, tape them to the side of your bathroom mirror where you can see them every day, and you’ll be all set. Of course you actually have to do the do’s and not do the don’ts, but that’s a mere detail.
The point is — and it’s a revolutionary point, when you think about it — that you don’t have to be a genius or a saint for the two of you to stay happy with each other. Love is a strong, healthy force. All you have to do is nurture it a little bit and avoid screwing it up too badly. And it will be there for you when you’re in your golden years.
Okay, in no particular order, here are our top 10 most important do’s and don’ts: (more…)
Less stress, more joy: how’s that for an idea?
There are two kinds of people. There are those who simplify and streamline their holidays. And there are those who have stressed-out, disappointing holidays.
So your choice is clear. Please. I’m begging you. [If you could see me, you’d find me on my knees beseeching you.] Let this be the year when (more…)
A cautionary tale
In a recent piece we talked about swinging and whether it made sense as something for a couple to get into. As you could easily tell, we were wildly unenthusiastic about swinging. Our position being that it is usually a really bad idea.
Well, here’s a Dear Prudence piece that illustrates what we were talking about: the way things can go REALLY haywire when you try swinging. It shows one way things can go wrong; there are dozens. If you really want to spice up your sex life without risking disaster, there’s real help in the sex chapter in Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad.
Handling an affair is all about handling the aftermath
This is yet another in our ripped-from-the-headlines series. Here we have some questions from an interview from a very popular web magazine. The occasion? Herman Cain’s alleged affair with Ginger White and his dropping out of the primary race. Here are the questions and our answers: (more…)
New year, new you, new marriage
Want to renovate your kitchen or bathroom? Tens of thousands of dollars and a ton of aggravation. If you want the biggest bang for your buck, why not renovate your marriage? It’s free, easier than you think, and has a huge payoff.
Here are the top five things you can do to renovate your marriage for the new year: (more…)