Hey mom, dad: RELAX!
I just read an article that both had great advice for parents and helped them relax. You rarely find the two going together. Of course I thought the article was wonderful: I’d been saying the same thing for a long, long time. And now here was new evidence for this view of optimal parenting. So what is this great advice? (more…)
How to prevent money fights
In the previous blog we talked about how destructive fighting about money can be. And that matters not only to you but to the whole country: with the tough times so many of us are facing, more money fights means more divorces, and that’s no good for anyone. But there are things you can do today to stop these fights. (more…)
The biggest problem couples face today?
What do you fight about? And how often? This is important. New research shows that of all kinds of fights, the fights most likely to lead to divorce were (more…)
Yes, marriages can heal after an affair
In a recent New York Times op-ed on no-fault divorce, relationship historian Stephanie Coontz casually mentioned that “there is growing evidence that marital counseling can repair some marriages even after infidelity.” And, we would add, after any kind of (more…)
More on the crazy business of predicting marital success
OK, so here’s an answer you didn’t expect to the question, “Will you end up divorced?”: So what? So what if you end up divorced?
I know: I’m being horrible. But I just want you to consider (more…)
More on the crazy business of predicting marital success
In the previous blog we started a series on predicting divorce or marital success. Will we make it or won’t we? is the question so many people ask.
Today I want to talk about an aspect of this that few people talk about but that’s very real. If you ask someone if they want to get divorced or stay married, the honest answer, and the accurate one, based on research, is (more…)
The crazy business of predicting marital success
Maybe I just woke up in a bad mood, but I’m getting really pissed off at all the articles I’ve been seeing about predicting divorce or marital success. There was one recently in the Daily Beast, for example, and the Gore split up has produced a flash flood of articles, like this one in the New York Times. The articles themselves are good. It’s the stuff in them that fries my onions.
What’s the point of predicting risk of divorce for already-married couples? (more…)
Great new review of TGTL audiobook
We want to thank Terri Schlichenmeyer for a lovely review of the audiobook version of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay that appeared in the Pittsburgh Tribune. Please check it out. So many people have read TGTL and gotten so much from it. So many people have been liberated from relationship ambivalence. So many people have found a way to a new life by getting out of a bad marriage. So many people have found that their marriage really is too good to leave. This is a life changing book. And of course you can get it fast from Amazon.
“Nervous breakdown, meet the emotional energy factor”
We love it when we turn out to be able to see into the future. Well, that’s what happened when we wrote our widely praised book The Emotional Energy Factor: we knew that millions of people were running on empty. The stresses and difficulties of life were getting to them. Their emotional energy was all going out, with nothing coming in.
And then what happens? Well, you know as well as I do. We’ve all felt we’re getting close (more…)
