There are three ways to do anything.  The right way, the wrong way, and your way.  You don’t want to do things the wrong way, but too often we drive ourselves crazy trying to do things the right way.  Who said that there’s one right way to do everything?  Don’t let perfectionism stand in the way of your taking care of yourself.  Decide that today you are going to do something your own way, and to hell with the right way. 

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Oh, dear: I really don’t want Slate’s “Dear Prudence” to think I am picking on her, because I think she is generally sound, but for the second time in a row she has struck out in the bottom of the ninth with the tying run on third.  She gave “Curious,” herein to be known as VG (vibrator girl) a quite wrong answer.  (more…)

A story in today’s New York Times illustrates something we’ve seen here a million times.  A couple decides to renovate their house.  Next thing you know, they’re getting a divorce.  What’s going on here???

Welcome to the stress-vulnerable marriage.  And that describes most of us.  Here’s how it works.  (more…)

OK: now there’s NEW evidence for why you just gotta get a good night’s sleep.  Basically, not getting enough sleep makes you stupid.  And that makes you dangerous.  Why?  (more…)

No, of course not.  We’re not giving bad advice.  But hasn’t this happened to you: you’ve read an advice column and suddenly you come across an item and you think, “Wow, that’s really bad advice!” 

Well, think how we feel.  We’ve got thirty years of clinical experience under our belts.  We train and educate clinicians.  So when we come across bad advice, it’s really like chalk on a blackboard.  Bad advice is not just wrong; it’s dangerous. 

So from time to time, starting today, we will highlight a piece of bad advice we found in the media from one of the more popular advice columnists.  (more…)

“I hate the way we fight.”  Really?  Well, are you willing to do something about it?  If so, help is on the way.  (more…)