We all want to prevent affairs.  They’re too dangerous, too hurtful.  So how do you prevent affairs?  How do you affair-proof your marriage? (more…)

OK, you’re a cheater.  Everyone hates you.  The odds are that you hate yourself.  But the real question is, What do you do?  (more…)

Of all the things that make people agitated when it comes to affairs, few things make people more agitated than “the other woman” (who is almost as often “the other man”).  These people are usually portrayed as temptresses, man hunters, home wreckers.  There is a mental image of Rielle Hunter, the woman who seemed to ensnare former presidential candidate John Edwards in her coils.  But is this image true?  Is it useful?  There is, in fact, another side to the story, and I’d like you to hear it.  (more…)

Some people didn’t get it.  But you did.  And your response has been unprecedented.  The ones who didn’t get it were upset that someone could talk about good people having affairs.  “Good people” and “affairs” don’t mix, they said.  But of course they do mix.   Tomorrow, July 21, is the official publication date of the paperback edition of When Good People Have Affairs.  So let’s talk about these people who have affairs.   (more…)

Your patience and your interest are being rewarded!  The paperback of When Good People Have Affairs will be available in all bookstores in a couple of days, on Tuesday, July 21!!  Click here to order your copy for only ten bucks!!!

We think it can’t happen to us, but it can.  There’s about a one in three chance that we’ll find out our spouse has cheated on us in on way or another.  And then what do you do?  (more…)

Affairs are the heart attacks of marriage.  To a large extent, they’re both caused by how you live and they are both preventable.  You can’t ignore the risk: affairs are the most common life catastrophe faced by people 25 through 65.  Yes, marriages can and do survive an affair.  But, as with heart attacks, many don’t, and many of the marriages that do survive limp on in a weakened condition. 

Can you affair-proof your marriage?  Yes.  (more…)

Hey guys, I’ve just done three new interviews about affairs and the whole sad, crazy Sanford mess that I think you’ll find interesting.  The first was with the wonderful John Hockenberry on public radio’s The Takeaway.  (more…)