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Leaping over the obstacles to more and better sex, Part 2

by Mira and Charles on May 29th, 2009

OK, let’s just get right into it, part 2 of overcoming the obstacles couples face who aren’t having as much sex as they’d like.  Let’s deal with obstacles 7 through 13: (more…)

Leaping over the obstacles to more and better sex, Part 1

by Mira and Charles on May 26th, 2009

OK, you’ve gone through the sex questions with each other, and that should make things a lot better.  But still, there are the 13 specific reasons why couples are having less sex.  And surely at least one of them applies to you.  So let’s go through them one at a time.  We’ll give you QUICK suggestions for how to overcome each obstacle.  There’s a lot to go through, so we’ll have to do this in two parts.  (more…)

Better sex, starting now

by Mira and Charles on May 21st, 2009

OK, so there 13 reasons why a couple might not be having as much sex these days.  So what do you do about it?  The answer might surprise you. (more…)

The FULL list of reasons why couples stop having sex

by Mira and Charles on May 18th, 2009

We must’ve been having one of our slow days.  In our last blog we said there were 5 reasons people who’ve been together for awhile are not having much sex anymore.  But wait a minute!  5?!?!  There are 13 reasons!

And that’s good news for you.  You can’t solve your problem if you don’t know what causes it.  And so this means that now you can target just why your sex life isn’t as active as you’d like it to be.  We promise, promise, promise that we’ll give you solutions next time.  And it will be a solution targeted to your situation. 

Now please rock the vote on this one.  Let us know which of the 13 reasons below best explains why you and your partner aren’t having sex very often these days.  Let us know.  Here are the candidates: (more…)

Does marriage have to ruin your sex life?

by Mira and Charles on May 15th, 2009

Is marriage a machine for creating babies and destroying sex?  That’s the way more and more people see it these days.  You start out filled with passion and the desire for intimacy.  Then the nonsense of daily life takes over, babies come, and sex flies out the window.  You’re too busy, too tired, too often pissed off at each other.  The next thing you know it’s been a very long time since you made love, and the more time passes, the harder it is.  At least it seems that way.

But is sex an inevitable casualty of marriage?  Absolutely not.  So what do you do about it?  (more…)

The most complicated relationship in the world: Mothers and daughters

by Mira and Charles on May 12th, 2009


It starts out with hopes that are sky high, and that’s where the trouble begins.  Mother has all the love in the world to give; she just wants the best for her daughter.  Daughter is adoring and malleable. 

But normal human being can’t live up to expectations like these.  And when neither is as wonderful as the other had hoped, trouble is brewing.  And so begins the most complicated relationship in the world  How do things go wrong, and how can we make them go right?  (more…)

“Hey, let’s beat up the victim”

by Mira and Charles on May 7th, 2009

They’re at it again, and I know why.  Elizabeth Edwards, whose husband, former Senator and Presidential candidate John Edwards cheated on her while she was suffering from cancer, is getting yelled at by snarky and clueless folks ranging from Maureen Dowd in the New York Times to Kathleen Parker in The Daily Beast.  Her “crime” seems to be that she somehow provoked her own betrayal (“She was asking for it”: you know, like rape victims!), that she didn’t walk out on him (all her accusers are convinced they they would be much stronger than poor stupid Elizabeth), and that she has been talking about what happened in public (“Doesn’t she have the decency to hide in shame like a proper cheated-on woman?”). 

Why this orgy of beating up on a victim of betrayal?  (more…)

The biggest Mother’s Day mistake

by Mira and Charles on May 4th, 2009


We’ll make this short and sweet.  The single biggest Mother’s Day mistake is … (more…)

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  • What Do I Do Now?
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