THE CHESTNUT HILL INSTITUTE

I’ve had so many requests from you all for video of me.  Well, you want video, here it is! 

Click here for the first video, about my most recent book, When Good People Have Affairs.  If either you or your partner are having an affair, this material could save you from ruining your life.  Even if you’ve never had an affair, this is a dramatic area you must understand.  

The next video is about an issue I know many of you are interested in: how to know if someone you’re dating is the right person for you.  (more…)

Let me tell you about the smartest man I ever knew.  No, he wasn’t a rocket scientist.  In fact, he owned a small produce business.  But here’s what made him such a genius. 

One day he met a woman.  Not his wife.  This woman was a buyer for one of stores he sold to.  But he got the hots for this woman, and she did for him.  They were about to have an affair. 

That’s when this guy got the idea that made him a genius… (more…)

Want a fast, smart way to have better relationships?  It’s easy.  Have fewer relationships.  I know: this goes against the grain.  We think of relationships as a form of wealth.  The more the better.  But the truth – I know it and you know it – that some of your relationships are more trouble than they’re worth.  You hang on to them because of guilt, habit, fear, misplaced hope.  But the truth is that they drain your energy and waste your time.  So you need to prune.  Feel you can’t do it?  Read on: you’ll see why and how you can do this.  (more…)

Couples don’t have a lot of different fights; they keep having the same fight over and over.  For example, Frank and Carol both put in long hours on their jobs, but Carol has to deal with the stress of managing people, while Frank spends his time mostly with numbers.  When they get home from work, Frank pushes to connect with Carol.  But Carol needs time to chill, so she pushes Frank away.  Night after night they struggle the same way like this and end up in the same place, with Frank feeling rejected and Carol feeling that Frank doesn’t really care about her.  Same fight, every night.

We’ve all come to the realization that we’re not only arguing about the same thing with our partner, we’re arguing in the same way, just as we’ve done a hundred times before.  Not being able to get out of this pattern makes us feel sad and frustrated.

Why do couples have the same fight over and over?  And what can you do about it?  (more…)