THE CHESTNUT HILL INSTITUTE

Hey guys — please check out this great, new review of one of our books. (more…)

I know what you’re thinking. Here comes another new year, and there are those things you don’t like about yourself or your life (and who wants to think about that!). And sure as winter brings cold and snow to us up here in Boston, you feel a determination bubble up within you to change things. “This will be the year…” And like lots of us you feel on the verge yet again to make a New Year’s Resolution.

DON’T! Unless … well, how have your past resolutions worked out for you? (more…)

Couples don’t have a lot of different fights; they keep having the same fight over and over.  For example, Frank and Carol both put in long hours on their jobs, but Carol has to deal with the stress of managing people, while Frank spends his time mostly with numbers.  When they get home from work, Frank pushes to connect with Carol.  But Carol needs time to chill, so she pushes Frank away.  Night after night they struggle the same way like this and end up in the same place, with Frank feeling rejected and Carol feeling that Frank doesn’t really care about her.

We’ve all come to the realization that we’re not only arguing about the same thing with our partner, we’re arguing in the same way, just as we’ve done a hundred times before.  Not being able to get out of this pattern makes us feel sad and frustrated.

Why do couples have the same fight over and over? (more…)