THE CHESTNUT HILL INSTITUTE

Hey, click here to listen to this podcast I just did for BoomerGirl.com!  I think you’ll find it a fun and interesting take on how to deal with affairs.

I’d love your help.  In the past year I’ve done two interviews for Time about infidelity.  Which do you like best?  (more…)

Check out my new interview in Time about affairs!  (more…)

Marriage is not low maintenance, but it’s not as hard as you might think.  Here are the fastest, easiest, most powerful ways to affair-proof your marriage: (more…)

“My spouse would never cheat on me.”

Oh yeah?  Well, guess again. 

I’m not saying your spouse isn’t a good person.  And I’m not saying your spouse will cheat on you.  I don’t know what your spouse is going to do!  What I am saying is that half of all marriages are touched by infidelity. THERE IS NO OTHER PART OF OUR LIVES WHERE THE RISK OF CATASTROPHE IS SO HIGH.

What you can’t do is take it for granted that your spouse won’t cheat. 

So what DOES protect you against this catastrophe?  (more…)

Affairs are the heart attacks of relationships.  Sometimes the relationship dies.  But many times it turns out better than ever. 

The best approach is always to look for opportunities for healing.  There may be more opportunities, and more healing, than you thought possible.  You never know where the healing will come from. 

To see an example of this for yourself, here’s an article by Sasha Brown-Worsham that appeared in newspapers across the country yesterday.  (Full disclosure: I am the featured expert in this article!)  (more…)

Due to popular request, here, in one place, are all thirteen reasons why married couples fall into a pattern of having less sex.  More important, here also are 13 quick SOLUTIONS to help you have a more loving, more intimate, more enjoyable, and more FREQUENT sexual relationship.  (more…)

In case you’re interested (and you just might be!), here are links that will let you see clips of me talking about my three of my ten books.  (more…)

 I recently did an interview about men and women who have trouble committing.  The way these things work, only a few sentences of the interview will make it into print.  So for you, here’s the whole thing:

1. What are some of the reasons people are unable to commit to relationships, even if they want to? (more…)

Our most recent book, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships, is about to come out in paperback.  Now is the time to pre-order your copy.  To see what people think about it, (more…)