Category: Emotional Energy
by Mira and Charles on December 5th, 2011
A cautionary tale
In a recent piece we talked about swinging and whether it made sense as something for a couple to get into. As you could easily tell, we were wildly unenthusiastic about swinging. Our position being that it is usually a really bad idea.
Well, here’s a Dear Prudence piece that illustrates what we were talking about: the way things can go REALLY haywire when you try swinging. It shows one way things can go wrong; there are dozens. If you really want to spice up your sex life without risking disaster, there’s real help in the sex chapter in Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad.
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by Mira and Charles on December 3rd, 2011
Handling an affair is all about handling the aftermath
This is yet another in our ripped-from-the-headlines series. Here we have some questions from an interview from a very popular web magazine. The occasion? Herman Cain’s alleged affair with Ginger White and his dropping out of the primary race. Here are the questions and our answers: (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on December 1st, 2011
New year, new you, new marriage
Want to renovate your kitchen or bathroom? Tens of thousands of dollars and a ton of aggravation. If you want the biggest bang for your buck, why not renovate your marriage? It’s free, easier than you think, and has a huge payoff.
Here are the top five things you can do to renovate your marriage for the new year: (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on November 29th, 2011
What do you think of this page?
Good news! We now have a webpage for “I Love You but I Don’t Trust You.” Check it out! But I need your help . . .
Please let me know what you think of the page. Are there any tweaks that occur to you? Any info you’d like to see? Any additions or deletions?
For many people, this will be their introduction to the book. Please let me know how you like it. I’d really appreciate hearing your reactions and suggestions. Thanks!!
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by Mira and Charles on November 23rd, 2011
What is gratitude without thanking?
We are being told more and more often that gratitude is good for us. Check out, for example, this article in the NYTimes which presents of slew of finding about the mental health benefits of the attitude of gratitude. But I—contrary as usual—am both critical and skeptical about this. The gratitude guys are on the right track, but they’ve got it wrong. Let’s look more closely. (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on November 21st, 2011
Tips for preventing a Thanksgiving disaster
It’s a day for thanks. It’s a day for giving. And it’s a day for enjoying and celebrating your family and friends. At least it should be. But too often Thanksgiving is a day marred – destroyed sometimes – by the stress of going overboard, the tension that goes with travel, and by family members acting badly. So sad. Especially when it’s so easy to have a happy Thanksgiving. The rules are few and simple: (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on November 18th, 2011
Spooling out difficult truths in a new relationship
Here we go again with another entry in our ripped-from-the-headlines series. (We’ve been doing a lot of interviews recently!) This one is about what to tell and when to tell it when you’re just starting out in a new relationship. I know. A scary and confusing issue. Well, here are the rules to keep you sane and keep you out of trouble: (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on November 16th, 2011
“Who are you, really?”
Weird things happen when people seek a mate. Like, for example, the way honest people turn into liars. A recent article about on-line dating in the Times has the statistic that “about 81 percent of people misrepresent their height, weight or age in their profiles.” And if people are lying about that—so easily disconfirmed!—what else are they lying about? (Answer: Everything!)
Why DO we lie when we’re looking for love, and what does it mean? (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on November 11th, 2011
How to show you really care
Here we go again: ripped from the headlines. This time the issue is why people so often feel unloved, uncared for in relationships. A major general interest magazine asked us for tips. Here’s what we said, then what happened when they asked us to support our advice: (more…)
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by Mira and Charles on November 7th, 2011
Are spouse swapping and multiple relationships ever a good idea?
Here we go again, another in the ripped-from-the-headlines series. This time my mind was blown when a writer from what used to be a very traditional woman’s magazine hit me with questions about swinging and swapping. I don’t know what will end up in the magazine piece, but here’s the raw Q and A. Let’s have at it!: (more…)
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