The Truth Comes Out
by Mira on August 4th, 2008There’s a recent article about me in the Guardian that finally gets close to the truth about what I’m all about. Which is good, because there’s been a lot of distortion, and some downright lies.
You know, my whole professional life (and a lot of my personal life—I just celebrated my 43rd anniversary! [I got married when I was still a teenager. Really!]) has been about finding (as in my book Is He Mr. Right?) and holding on to real, true love (as in my books The Weekend Marriage and Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad).
This is why it gets me so discouraged when my work is misunderstood. When my book Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay came out, people attacked me for wanting to break up marriages. NO! I only wanted to help people bury dead marriages, so they could go on with their lives and find true love.
And now with my new book When Good People Have Affairs, I’ve been attacked for promoting affairs. NO! I do NOT think people should go out and have affairs.
What I know is that affairs are a fact. I know that they usually arise out of marriages that need work. I know that most of the time a marriage can survive an affair if the people work at it. And I know that sometimes, sadly, an affair is a sign that a marriage is over, which means it was time the people moved on and gave themselves a chance to find real love.
Most of all, I know that people are hungry for love, that hunger makes us stupid and confused, that most of us are doing the best we can, and that when someone has an affair they could be about to make a mess of their lives OR about to finally sort things out so they can find the love they were looking for.
