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Look, I’m not a big fan of making a big deal about male/female differences.  We are much more similar than we are different.  But still, it seems to me that there is one area where men stand out: they don’t seem to like to apologize.  Apologies for men are like male menstruation: a guy will bleed, but you have to force it out of them. 

I’ve got three theories why men don’t apologize. One is that guys just don’t apologies.  It’s not in their culture.  The way touching someone you’re talking to on the arm isn’t part of guy culture. 

The second possibility is that guys just don’t apologize to us women.  And the reason for THAT is that the stuff we get mad about seems like silly girl stuff (“Why should I apologize for not calling?  So I didn’t call.  So what?”). 

Finally, maybe it’s all our fault.  (And if so, I’m sorry!)  Guys don’t apologize because when they screw up we get SO bent out of shape, go SO ballistic, that the apology gets strangled in the cradle. 

What do you think?  Vote on your favorite theory.  Put forth your own theory. 

And do you even agree?  Do you think I’m right in the first place when I say that men apologize much less than women? 

And here’s the $64 question:  How do you get your guy to apologize? 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on all this.

Posted: Friday, March 21st, 2008 at 9:40 am
Category: Relationships
Author: Mira
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