The secret for finding true love Pt. 4
by Mira and Charles on January 23rd, 2012OK, here we go, onward with our series on the secrets of finding true love. Last time we talked about how “It’s not about losing yourself in him. It’s about becoming true to yourself with him.” The next secret is . . .
It’s not about how great he is. It’s about how great you can become alongside of him.
Yeah, I know. You never wanted to be great. You just want to be happy.
I get it.
But that’s not really my point. I don’t mean great as in President of the United States. I mean great as in fulfilling your dreams for yourself. The point is: Is your guy a dream squasher or a dream helper. And it doesn’t matter how big or small your dreams are.
The trap so many people fall into is the measure their worth by the worth of the person they’re with. And if the other person really is so great, then why not put your own dreams on hold? If someone has to sacrifice, then why not you? And so you put your dreams on hold.
And if you keep doing this, then over time you just keep looking and feeling smaller in your own eyes.
So make sure you find a partner who not only cares about you but who actually does things to support your trying to live your dream. That’s the only greatness that really matters.
And please, before I forget, let me remind you to get a hold of a copy of our latest book I Love You but I Don’t Trust You. It’s based, in part, on the truth that while people can and do betray each other, even in good relationships, those relationships need to survive, and they can. And we show you how.
