Last time we gave you all 9 secrets for finding true love, all from our book Women & Love. Here we start taking a brief look at each secret, to make sure you know how to put it into practice. And by the way, if you happen to be a man, STAY PUT, because believe me each of these secrets applies just as much to you as to a woman.

The first secret is:

It’s not just how you feel about him. It’s much more how he makes you feel about yourself.

We so often put ourselves at great risk by putting a premium on how over-the-moon in love we feel toward the other person. We take this as a certificate of true love.

The problem is that you’ve only found true love if your love loves you back. If the other person makes you feel good for being in this new place. If your love fills you not just with good feelings but with good feelings about yourself.

Too often people have these huge passions for people who don’t love them back. Or if they do love them back they do so in a way that makes them feel awkward, insecure, uncomfortable, diminished, inadequate.

Love is like any investment: it’s not about what you put out but about what you get back. And if you’re not getting back what you’re putting out, then this just isn’t the real thing.

So please: it’s true love if the other person not only makes you feel wonderful but also makes you feel that you are wonderful just the way you are.

Posted: Wednesday, January 4th, 2012 at 5:34 pm
Category: Relationships, News & Notes, Emotional Energy, Decision Making, Uncategorized
Author: Mira and Charles
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