Valentine’s Day Joy for Couples
by Charles on February 11th, 2008If you’re in a relationship,Valentine’s Day too often means just one thing: Pressure! How do you cope?
Let’s say you’re in a relationship. Valentine’s Day looms. The airwaves are filled with ads for expensive jewelry and costly romantic vacations. High-priced restaurants lure you to show your love by spending a fortune on dinner.
Add to all of this the look in your partner’s eye: deliver or else, it seems to say.
No wonder we feel so much pressure around Valentine’s Day. And even if we give in to it, we resent it and so there’s a bitter aftertaste even when we supposedly do the right thing.
What’s the solution? Understand what’s really going on here. Unless your partner’s just a greedy little pig, he or she just wants one thing: to feel your love, caring, and attention.
It’s not about spending money. It’s about doing something that says, “I love you; I think about you; and I want you to know it.”
Maybe an expensive gift would do that. But too often spending money is a substitute for really thinking about your partner and finding a way to give more of yourself.
Don’t be fooled by the ads. Listen to your heart. What do you think would really show your love?
And if you’re really stumped, try this. Say to your partner, “I really love you. What could I do that would show you how much I love you on Valentine’s Day?” Then listen and do it.
Let’s all help out here with suggestions. What have you gotten for Valentine’s Day that really touched your heart and made you feel loved? What do you wish you’d gotten? Please share this with everyone. We all need suggestions, if only to get our creative juices flowing.
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