I Love You but I Don’t Trust You, pt. 2
by Mira and Charles on June 29th, 2011From Chap. 1 of our new book, continued
Here’s part two of a three-part excerpt from Chap. 1, just to give you just a quick, early taste of our new book on restoring trust in relationships. As you may remember (click here to refresh your memory), Heather had just discovered that her husband had betrayed her. Her friends had come together to support and advise her.
From Chap. 1:
Finally. they all settled in to talk about what Heather should do.
Good, they all agreed, you threw him out. He deserved it.
But what next?
What next? That was the question hanging in the air. Mary said, “Look, you can’t trust him, right? How can you trust him after what he did? He broke your trust into a thousand pieces. Trusting him again would just be stupid. It’s all over.”
“Yeah,” Gail said, “I mean, this is about who you are. If you let him back, he’s going to think, in the end, he can get away with hurting you. You can’t let yourself be a doormat.”
Nicole hadn’t spoken yet. But Heather was starting to get the picture. Her friends wanted to see her as a strong heroine. They wanted her to show them that a woman wouldn’t take crap from a guy. If she didn’t take Chris back, their husbands would be that much more scared of betraying them.
Heather was heartbroken at the thought that she’d suddenly lost everything and she started to cry again. “I loved him so much and now I can’t ever trust him again and now I’ve lost everything. It’s over forever.”
There was a long silence, and then Nicole finally spoke: “Oh sweetie, I know how awful this is for you. I mean…Chris, for God’s sake, who’d have thought he’d do something like this? And you’ve counted on him for everything. I know,” she said, taking Heather’s hand, “I know you feel he’s destroyed your world. You want to kill him. We all do. But…,” and Nicole took a deep sigh, “all this it’s-over-forever talk…I just don’t know. Yeah, I know, it feels like everything’s smashed into a million pieces. How can you ever trust him again? But you’re like, ‘Oh, now I’ve found out that Chris is really this evil man.’ But what if he’s not an evil man? I know he loves you.” Nicole squeezed Heather’s hand for emphasis. “What if he’s just an big, fat idiot who made this horrible, stupid mistake? What if he’s really sorry and would do anything to get you back?”
“I don’t want him back,” Heather said.
“You don’t want him back because you think you can never trust him again. And maybe that’s true. I can’t promise it’s not true. But you still love each other and…more important than that you guys had a really good relationship.”
“For a very long time too,” Mary chimed in.
“Yeah,” Nicole said. “so after you’ve made him suffer for a while and scared the crap out of him…”
“Definitely let him know you’ve seen a lawyer,” Gail said.
“…yeah, and scared the crap out of him, why don’t you take him back and see if you can get to the point where you can ever trust him again.”
“I just don’t think…” Heather started, but Nicole interrupted her.
Nicole’s story. “It can happen. I’ve seen it. Nicole paused, “and I’ve lived it.” All eyes were on Nicole now. “A year after Dave and I were married…”
[To be continued in the next blog.]
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