Before you cheat… Part 1
by Mira and Charles on August 20th, 2010Making sure an affair doesn’t ruin your life
Well, summer is still here, the weather looks nice, and maybe you’re thinking this is the perfect time to have an affair. You know: to take the plunge and go from doing something you would tell your spouse about (“I had lunch today with Chris from marketing. We talked about the new product line.”) to doing something you wouldn’t want to tell your spouse about (“…and then we talked about how lonely we were, got a little drunk, went to a hotel, and had sex.”). Of course, you’re free to do what you want. But is it what you want? How can you tell what you want? How can you regret-proof this decision that might change your life?
So let me help you. I’m not going to tell you not to do it. But now and in the next couple of blogs I am going to ask you some questions that just might prevent you from making the biggest mistake of your life.
So, you’re sure your spouse will never find out about this? All I can say is, don’t be so sure. Most of the people who come to me because their lives have been rear ended by an affair found out about it or were busted in ways that totally surprised them. You think there’s no evidence, but there is—a credit-card statement, a stray email, a call from the other person, another even more insistent call from the other person, a confession from the cheater himself, perhaps in a moment of anger, perhaps in a moment of guilt. And once the cat is out of the bag, believe me, all hell breaks loose. That’s some cat.
Next time: Are you prepared for all hell breaking loose?
Meanwhile, check out When Good People Have Affairs. And for one-on-one help, come visit us here at The Chestnut Hill Institute.
