Money fights are the worst, Part 1
by Mira and Charles on June 21st, 2010The biggest problem couples face today?
What do you fight about? And how often? This is important. New research shows that of all kinds of fights, the fights most likely to lead to divorce were fights over money. And not only that, but the more often you fight about money the greater your risk of divorce. A couple that fights over money four times a month is 30 percent more likely to get a divorce than a couple whose money fights take place three times a month.
This is serious, and scary. There are a lot of couples having money problems in this time of unemployment, less income, foreclosures, and so on. In this climate, disagreements about what to spend money on, how much to save, how much spending is too much become that much sharper. The fights are usually about what is fair and what is reasonable, and they grow out of a feeling that the other person is either evil or crazy or stupid or a baby.
But you don’t need hard times to have money fights. Plenty of quite prosperous, secure couples manage to fight about money anyway. There is something about money that works its way into our hearts, squeezing out love.
But do money disagreements have to lead to money fights? That is the question.
The answer is a big NO. It’s not money problems but not knowing how to deal with them as a couple that leads to at least half of the money-related divorces. In other words, you could cut your risk of divorce, which you need like a hole in the head, in half if you knew how to disagree about money productively.
Let me hear from you why you fight about money, and in the coming week I’ll write a blog based on your needs about how to resolve your money fights in a constructive, not destructive, way.
In the meantime, are you’re thinking, gee, I wonder if things have gone too far? Maybe we just shouldn’t be together. Well, check out Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay for the best help available. It’s clarified things for millions of people. It can clarify things for you.
