Diagnosing your marriage
by Mira and Charles on April 30th, 2009How is your marriage going? Are things OK or are you in trouble? And while we’re at it, how is marriage in general going these days?
Marriage today, and that includes your marriage, faces some unique and scary challenges. Still marriage is actually in much better shape today than it might seem. The level of happiness in the average marriage has risen every decade in the past century and continues to rise.
And in fact people typically report a pretty decent level of satisfaction in their marriages. Part of this is because people are making smarter choices about whom to be with, they have more realistic expectations, and they have more skills for dealing with each other, compared to the way things were in the past.
Also, roles and responsibilities within marriage are much more equally and fairly balanced. There’s been a real revolution there.
No wonder people continue to pin a lot of hopes on the idea of a committed, long-term relationship. In fact, marriage might be in better shape today than at any other time.
But as I said, there are still grave challenges that in fact doom too many marriages. Is yur marriage at risk? Just answer these three questions:
1. Would you say that the two of you are so busy that you don’t really have much quality time together in the course of a typical week?
2. Has your marriage shown some strain in the recent period?
3. Do things between you usually get better when the two of you manage to get away and have quality time just with one another?
If you answered YES to all three questions, then you suffer from the weekend marriage syndrome. You have so little time together that the only real time the two of you have for each other is on the weekend, if then.
And that means that you might be in trouble. What do you think: after years of putting your marriage on the shelf for that day in the future when you will have time for each other, will your love still be fresh? Or will it have gone stale and sour?
There is too much risk that it will have gone stale and sour.
But help is on the way! Click here to check out our book The Weekend Marriage. It was written just for you! It really was! It will give you all the help you need to keep your marriage alive and healthy, in spite of your time-starved lifestyle. And in case you were wondering, all the help in this book was tested by real people living the same crazy schedule you’re living.
Let me hear from you if you’re living the weekend marriage. What effect has it had on your marriage? How do you cope? Share your wisdom and your story with the rest of us.
Love, Mira and Charles
